Tuesday, October 25, 2011

life...

What I'm loving....

 - homemade honey bran muffins slathered with a friend's homemade pumkin butter.  so good!
- spending an uninterrupted hour with my oldest while the littles nap
-  my new gym routine.  losing weight easily (the first time since giving birth in 2006) and feeling o-so-good
- hearing the thoughts of my middle child.  he's putting words together well and communicating better than I thought he would, given that he's a boy and a younger sibling.
- the afternoon sunlight.  it goes perfectly with my Bible and a cup of tea.
- my youngest child.  I never knew such delightful babies existed.

What I'm struggling with...

- figuring out how to balance all my hats: mommy, cook, maid, laundromat, teacher, wife, personal shopper, friend, daughter, sister...  something always gets left unattended and I'm sad to report I think it is usually a relationship.
- the new rebellion I see in my two-year-old.  Staying consistent is hard!
- the repeated bouts of copious amounts of snot with my youngest.
- the afternoon nap of the eldest has been completely and utterly laid to rest.  Sob.

So that's life as we know it... for the moment.

Wednesday, October 19, 2011

the whole purpose...

... of discipline is to stay in fellowship - fellowship with God and other fellow image-bearers.  Sin is a fellowship destroyer.  Recently, there was a remarkably vague post on Femina about the specifics of discipline, but it held a nugget of gold that I latched on to.  How do you know after you've disciplined your child whether or not it has accomplished your purpose of drawing them back into fellowhip with not only you, but also God, or if you have just created a boiling-beneath-the-surface-but-I'll-smile-and-pretend-it's-all-good-or-they'll-spank-me-again* situation with you child?

The only specific that was named in the post was that the author's toddler is asked to give a high-five before the discipline can be deemed complete and effective.  The premise is simple - most toddlers won't give you a high-five if they are ticked with you.  So, we've adopted a similar approach to ending discipline here.  Ethan has to shoot us a high-five, and Emory has to tell us a joke.  Both are based on the individual tempermants represented by the kiddos, and neither child will preform the necessary action unless their heart is happy.

That's what we're after anyway, isn't it?  A happy, joyful heart is a truly obedient heart.  My heart's desire is for my children to know the joy of the Lord.  It's hard not to obey someone who fills your heart with joy.

*Cat's out of the bag.  We do spank, but it is not our only method of discipline.  We love our children dearly and are careful to use this method responsibly.*

Tuesday, October 11, 2011

Thursday, October 6, 2011

what's goin' on?

Life has been so hectic lately.  I'll start with some bullet points on what we've been up to since my last post:

- We went to the beach for a week.  I'll post pictures soon.  Fun was had by all.
- We're still chugging along with kindergarten.  It takes up a lot of my time, which I totally expected, but it still frustrates me.
- I had minor knee surgery taking me out of the mama game for a few days.  We were well cared for by friends.
- Ethan's been diagnosed with an auto-immune disorder.  We're still in the process of narrowing down which one.  Lots of blood being drawn.  He looks the picture of health, you'd never know anything was wrong with him... until he catches a cold that knocks him down for 2 weeks.
- Ella Margaret is still such a terrific baby.  Beginning to sit up.  Still on an all milk diet, won't touch solids.  Slaps the spoon right out of your hand.  She'll be seven months on Sunday.  She doesn't look like she's hurting too much for nutrition, weighing in at 18 pounds, 10 ounces at her 6 month check up. 
- Emory has finally accepted school as part of her day.  She is a real trooper.  Working really hard at not crying when she's frustrated with a new concept.  She's almost nailed it.  I really enjoy being her teacher.  This is where she and I connect the most.
- Eric is hard at work being a veternarian extrodinairre, a selfless husband, and a fun daddy.
- We've decided to start doing cloth diapers for the 2 diapered kiddos, and I am loving it.  It does not add that much to my workload at all.  Ethan, in true boy fashion, loves to flush the dirties.  It's something I've wanted to do for our children for over a year and my parents made it happen for us.  Thanks Mom and Dad!
- Since switching to cloth diapers, we're generating only 1/3 of the trash we had been.  We haven't taken our dumpster to the street in 2 weeks.  We used to take it twice a week.  That speaks volumes to me and is totally worth the microscopic bit of extra work cloth diapering is.
- Because of Ethan's issues I'm working on getting us on a preservative-free, whole food diet.  Educating myself has been a slow process.  I'm looking forward to eating a cleaner diet and not feeling so sluggish.

What's going on with you guys?